As hard as we sometimes try to pretend that they don’t exist, fears are real and they are not supposed to be ignored as if they were made up and imaginary. Fears that are never evaluated and addressed will not only grow stronger and more debilitating but eventually they will consume us until all we are left with is that fear. In order to begin shedding all of the thoughts and things that you are fearful of, the things that are getting in the way of your future successes, you have to begin to release your desire to control everything.
A lot of what it takes to move past your fears is in realizing that you just can not control every aspect of things that are going to happen in your life. If you never want to attempt to go after your goal because it involves doing something that you are afraid to do then you are limiting your opportunities. Simply put, there are just some things that you can not control and trying to continue to control them is what may be keeping you in a state of fear.
We are often times our own worst enemies when it comes to making our dreams a reality. We worry about the things in between our starting point and our end point so much that we either take longer or just never make it to our destination. If we are to network in order to get more clients, more contacts, more opportunities, but we are afraid to get on a plane to travel, or worse, afraid to leave the comfort of our own home, then we are limiting our chances.
We can’t control the weather that we worry about, or what will happen with the plane that we are afraid to get on, or how many people will say no to us before that one person says yes. One thing is for sure. We can control taking the chance and we can control moving forward no matter what. Fear of anything, especially success, tends to keep us locked inside with the shades drawn. A large part of fear is being concerned with things that are just out of your hands to begin with.
The longer we just sit there and watch as life happens the less control we have on where our life goes. We can’t take time for granted and keep thinking that we have time left to do what we want to do. If you focus on the things and the opportunities that we can take control of and that you can steer in the direction that you want to go in, you stand a better chance of releasing all of the things you were afraid of to begin with.